Christmas Photos

This Christmas was obviously a quiet one at home for us. With our need to keep Eli safe, it really limits our options. A couple weeks ago, we were able to see Christmas Tree Lane, since it didn't require us leaving the car. We have also had tremendous support from two of our dearest friends, who have taken our precautionary practices upon themselves, so they are able to be at least one piece of "social" for us. There's simply no way we could communicate how humbling and great this is for us, nor offer enough thanks.

Here are some glimpses into our Christmas this year, Eli's first. He continues to be such a happy, smiley boy, and continues to bring us so much joy. With Paige now three years old, we've begun to forge our own holiday traditions. Paige helped make candies. Below, she dips pretzel sticks in caramel before also dipping them in chocolate then crushed almonds. Yummm!!! Randy and Laurie brought Paige a few games for Christmas. Paige really looks forward to seeing them, and they're so great at having the time and patience to enter her world and play with her. Here, Paige is beating Randy at a game of Ants in the Pants.

Also below, Paige now helps decorate the tree. And, Santa brought her the blue fork and spoon she asked for. Eli is all smiles, as usual, and completely captivated by the blue light on his first Christmas present.

10 months!

Wow! Eli is 10 months old, now. Saturday, the 19th, he'll have been home from the hospital 6 months, and the following day is 10 months from his first heart surgery. To us it seems like eternities ago. This year has been a big haze and fog to us. Yet at the same time, it all seems like yesterday.

Since coming home, Eli has made great strides developmentally. When he came home, he was 9 pounds and could barely hold up his head. He was essentially a newborn in a 4 month old body. In fact, one of the therapists who works with Eli doesn't "count" the months he was in the hospital when she evaluates him developmentally. She sees Eli as a 6 month old, not 10 months.

Eli is growing stronger by the day. His head control is strong. He'll sit supported for short periods, sometimes pulling away from the back support and balancing himself. Just recently he started bearing a little weight on his legs. Eli likes to grab for things next to him while laying on his back. He has the ability to roll over, just chooses not to. He not fond of tummy time. Mommy was very relieved when he figured out how to put his pacifier in his mouth on his own, especially in the middle of the night.

Eating presents a different challenge. He is mostly fed through his g-tube. We give him the opportunity to drink from a bottle at least once a day, but often he'll only drink an ounce or two before he tires out. Our surgeon gave us a great analogy that helps us understand Eli's feeding. Eli's body is working so hard to maintain his heart, it's like he is constantly running a marathon. When you add in feeding, it's like eating a large meal while running that marathon. It's just too much. For that reason, we don't push him too hard. Eli has been able to explore with a few solid foods. His been given rice cereal, sweet potatoes, plums, and bananas. He'll take a few bites from the spoon, play with it, and eventually swallow it. It's certainly a foreign thing to him. He's not sure what to do with it.

One thing Eli has never lacked in is his socialiblity. When he was in the hospital, he got tons of attention from the nurses, therapists, doctors, and volunteers. He loves to be talked to, and will smile at any movement or sound. He has earned the name Captain Smiles, and wears it well. He adores his sister, Paige. She loves entertaining him and making him happy when he is upset. She is the only one who can do silly things and make Eli truly laugh. They share a great bond.

Eli is fairing well so far this winter season. Becoming shut-ins has not been easy on us, but it is proving to be protecting Eli, so that makes it all worth it. Please continue to pray. Eli is running a race against time. We pray daily for the miracle Eli needs to have to be a candidate for his next surgery.

Modeling with Paige

Montana de Oro, just before sundown.

After a 1/2 mile hike down to the oceanic cliffs of Montana de Oro for some family photos, Paige first warmed up the camera on one of the grassy hills. I'm just an amazingly proud daddy, that's all. I love this little girl!

November Photos

Being an unusually warm day, and probably the last of the year, we decided to make the trek to Woodward Park a couple weeks ago for their annual cultural event in the Japanese Gardens. Fall colors were in full splendor and very few people were present. Afterward, we had a picnic lunch and Paige and daddy climbed over the rocks near the stream, and went "sploring" to find new stuff. Paige loves exploring.

Also, this week was Eli's 9 month anniversary. We figured he was due for another photo session. Eli's pictures were taken this afternoon.

Halloween 2009

We had a very quiet Halloween at home this year. Paige got to wear her Cinderella dress, complete with tiara and wand. She got her hair curled and even wore some of Mommy's makeup. To complete the theme, Eli was Gus the mouse. Here are a few pics of them all dressed up.

Jason acquired a green thumb and grew some giant pumpkins in the backyard. In his first year, he harvested a 68 pounder and a 70 pounder! It'll be interesting to see what he will grow next year, with all the things he learned from his rookie year. He also had fun carving the pumpkins. His are his works of art:

How can we help?

Over the last few months, you’ve all been so very supportive. It would be impossible to count up all the offers for help you’ve given. And you all know how poorly we’ve been able to receive help. The problem is that we usually just don’t know what would help us. Or, more recently, our needs for quarantine have isolated us from being able to receive help. This week, we’ve discovered an area where we could use your help.

The further we make our way through this journey, we become more drained and lose sight of any goal. It feels a bit like a fog of war. We can’t see what’s ahead of us, and we’re forgetting why we’re out here. We are only able to put our heads down and continue marching., watching only our feet as they put down one step at a time. We trust, with all our heart, that God has a master plan at work. We also feel that’s such an abused cliché, often used to blanket all sorts of confusions, but it’s something we’ve latched onto for a year now. It’s been a year since we learned about what was to come with Eli.

We’d like to call on you to help remind us of the victories that have come through Eli’s story. Victories on any level from causing a smile or tear, to changing a life, to anything in between. Quick thoughts to full stories, we need them all. We still remember some of them. Stories of faiths renewed, stories of parents re-evaluating how they’ve taken their own children for granted, stories of families and children praying together for Eli. All these sorts of things give us strength to continue fighting.

In the Bible, there is a story about Moses, and his role in the battle of the Amalekites (Exodus 17). His job was to hold up his hands. When his hands were up, the Isrealites would be victorious. As he lowered them, they’d suffer loss. When he could no longer lift them, Aaron and Hur came along side him and held his hands up for him. We need your help holding up our hands.

We know there are many more following this blog than have ever written. We know there are some of you we’ve never met, who are following us faithfully. It would mean so much to us for you to communicate any encouragement to us. We’ve tried to share our lives as best we can, could you share yours? We’d love for you to share your stories here, so others can also be encouraged, but we recognize there are many reasons you may prefer not to do this. Lots of us don’t like speaking publicly. Many of us don’t want to spend the time to deal with the technology issues related to posting here. For whatever reason, we offer the alternative of emailing us directly at twedehase@yahoo.com

Thank you for continuing to walk with us. We eagerly await for your stories, and appreciate you taking them time to write them.

Fall Pictures

Eli likes both sweet potatoes and grandma Ruth. Paige is both an artist and a super hero. We just thought we'd share some of our autumn, so far.